Monthly Archives: September 2013

Loss and gain are brothers twain.

Leo Tolstoy


Forgiveness is a way of life that gradually transforms us from being helpless victims of our circumstances to being powerful and loving co-creators of our reality.

Robin Casarjian

It is a capital mistake to theorise before one has data. Insensibly one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of theories to suit facts.

-Sherlock Holmes, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

It’s unlike an expert in love to forget that an amorous lover finds some pretext for being smitten and unhinged by every single alluring person.

The most important human endeavor is the striving for morality in our actions. Our inner balance and even our very existence depend on it. Only morality in our actions can give beauty and dignity to life.

Albert Eistein


Here is a list of the virtues covered in this set. I suggest you start with the one you find the most absent in your life—and not to worry, there isn’t one quality in here that will be impossible to possess. Every quality can be adequately met by those who work on drawing them out of their own personality. You might not be that “one guy” you’ve always wanted to be, but with work you can create something out of yourself that is worthy to be admired.

  • Dignity — This is poise and self respect, like a non-abrasive version self-confidence.
  • Virility — This is being attune to and comfortable with your gender and sexuality—I’m not making anything resembling a political statement here, this just means that you fulfill a strong sense of your own definition of what these things mean to you.
  • Magnanimity — This refers to someone who is able to keep their poise during danger or stress, and responds well to their own problems and to requests of aid from others.
  • Serenity — One who has this trait is not easily riled or stressed. They tend to have steady behavior. This is a little like Magnanimity, but focuses on general life rather than response to emegency situations (you don’t necessarily want to be serene during an emergency.
  • Nobility — Having nobility refers to someone who obviously has a strong sense of their morality and ideals, and makes people want to trust them. While I don’t think that a noble person has to avoid offense at all cost, a person with nobility should be able to control their behavior at appropriate times out of respect.
  • Gracefulness — This refers to being fully comfortable in your own skin, and a person who has accomplished. Developing serenity can help achieve this as someone suffering intensely through anxiety has difficulty being comfortable with how they move with the world.
  • Wittiness — One doesn’t have to be a comedian to have some wit, but they do have to have a sense of humor. Someone who is witty is able to joke and laugh with those around them and also have a sense of humor about themselves. It also implies someone who can be amusing and fun if not necessarily hilarious.
  • Vivaciousness — Someone who is vivacious is excited and optimistic about life—and it shows. They tend to smile more and try to find new experiences. They certainly don’t stay stuck in the same routine just to get by.
  • Imaginativeness — This is someone who has a creative spirit and is interested in new or unusual things. Interests could be education, the arts, nature, entrepreneurial ventures, or other creative ventures. They also tend to try to discover better solutions to problems, rather than by simply “what works”.
  • Whimsicality — Someone who doesn’t feel the need to be serious all the time, or even the majority of time. While being impulsive isn’t always appreciation by some people, one can still pay the bills and be responsible even if they allow unplanned adventures or ideas to come to fruition as inspiration strikes.
  • Liveliness — This is someone who is animated and happy to be moving. Someone who is lively is more likely to get out of bed and get things done, and they also tend to be have more “magnetic” personalities in the opinion of most people (not all!). Being lively also tend to breed optimism and clear depression.

Personal charm is often confused with virtue. Thus, while there is nothing wrong with befriending a charming person, anyone who does so should realize that a charming friend is not necessarily a good and loyal friend.